self-compassion

February 23, 2026

What If I’d Driven Away? Learning Self-Compassion When You Can’t Forgive Your Own Choices

What if one different choice could have changed everything? Through the lens of a moment sitting outside a church in a minivan, this post explores what it really means to stop punishing yourself, listen to the parts of you that are exhausted, and discover that self-compassion — not self-criticism — is the only way forward.… Continue reading

Parts Work, self-compassion, Trauma Recovery work

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January 26, 2026

A Table for My Enemies

“I have spent so much of my life closing and barring the door to the parts of myself I find unacceptable. I’m realizing as I get older how much energy it requires to continue to push on this door to prevent it from breaking open. Sitting on my desk is a little golden table—a sacred… Continue reading

authentic living, belonging, complex trauma, Deconstronstruction, faith and religion, healing and recovery, healing process, Internal Family Systems, mental health, Mental Wellness, regret, religious abuse, Religious PTSD recovery, religious trauma recovery, self discovery, self trust, spiritual abuse recovery

complex trauma, deconstruction, Finding Home, francis weller, healing-journey, Internal Family Systems, Parts Work, regret, religious trauma, self-acceptance, self-compassion, shame, spiritual abuse, survivor stories, trauma recovery
November 21, 2025

When Helping Ourselves Becomes Hurting Ourselves: My Journey with Rumination

For years, I thought retelling my abuse story was helping me heal. I had no idea I was retraumatizing myself every single time. Today I discovered the hidden pattern that’s been keeping me stuck—and why even well-intentioned therapy can miss it. Continue reading

peer support, rumination, sacred healing, trauma Informed, trauma recovery

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September 16, 2025

Breaking Down the Barriers to Love

“I spent almost half a decade looking into the mirror and seeing someone else. Who did I see? Someone who everyone else expected me to be. People-pleasing doesn’t give your true self the opportunity to be loved—and it doesn’t give someone else the opportunity to be loved by your true self.” Continue reading

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September 14, 2025

Are You Running on Fear?

Our nervous systems are wired to keep us alive, not to keep us happy. They’re incredibly good at detecting danger, but terrible at telling the difference between real threats and false alarms. That rustling in the bushes could be a bear or it could be a squirrel. Your nervous system doesn’t care—it just screams ‘RUN!'” Continue reading

authentic living, Nervous System, survival

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July 16, 2025

Learning to Trust Yourself: A Journey of Self-Discovery

“Here’s what I’ve learned: self-trust isn’t something you either have or don’t have—it’s something you build through small, consistent deposits of self-advocacy.Just like a bank account, trust accumulates through repeated deposits. Every time you honor a commitment to yourself—even a tiny one—you’re making a deposit. Every time you speak up for your needs, set a… Continue reading

authentic living, authentic self, belonging, breaking cycles, mental health, Mental Wellness, self discovery, self trust, self-care, trauma recovery coaching

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self-compassion

What If I’d Driven Away? Learning Self-Compassion When You Can’t Forgive Your Own Choices

A Table for My Enemies

When Helping Ourselves Becomes Hurting Ourselves: My Journey with Rumination

Breaking Down the Barriers to Love

Are You Running on Fear?

Learning to Trust Yourself: A Journey of Self-Discovery