faith deconstruction

October 17, 2025

Care or Carrying?

**Tags:** – trauma recovery – boundaries – codependency – religious trauma – emotional responsibility – self-leadership – caring vs carrying – parenting adult children – healing patterns – compassion fatigue – inner work – family dynamics – faith deconstruction – emotional boundaries – recovery coaching **Excerpt:** I was 17 when I called my ex-boyfriend to… Continue reading

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September 13, 2025

Navigating the Cracks

I’ve been trying to understand what I’m feeling when I look at social media these days. Confusion, fear, anger, and so much grief over where we are as a country right now. It feels like walking across a frozen pond with cracks, wondering when we might fall through. But I’m learning that beneath the surface… Continue reading

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September 6, 2025

Finding Joy and Hope Beyond the Emotional Highs: A Journey from Manufactured to Authentic

After losing the intoxicating emotional highs of church community, I discovered that true joy and hope aren’t dramatic peaks to chase, but subtle moments that accumulate like stalactites—building lasting strength one drop at a time in the darkness. Continue reading

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August 31, 2025

When the Shell Cracks: Finding Truth Beyond Religious Performance

Truth always finds a way to surface. Our ego tries to keep everything together, but eventually the shell cracks and what’s inside starts leaking out. If we’re brave enough to look at what seeps out instead of frantically patching the holes, we might find what we’ve been searching for all along. Continue reading

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August 23, 2025

The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Finding Truth Beyond Collective Narratives

We tell ourselves stories in order to live,” Joan Didion wrote. But what happens when those shared stories—our collective narratives—become barriers to the very connection they promise to create? Growing up with parents whose lives were like apple carts filled to capacity, I learned early how fragile our shared stories can be. One uncomfortable truth… Continue reading

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July 23, 2025

When Authority Becomes the Enemy of Truth

“Blind belief in authority is the greatest enemy of truth.” — Albert EinsteinThe ambulance lights cut through the darkness at the convenience store. Someone had played Russian roulette and lost. As I drove past that night, seventeen and heartbroken after my boyfriend left me for my best friend, I looked up at the empty sky… Continue reading

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July 15, 2025

Why Systems Choose Silence Over Survivors

When you’re a survivor and hardly anyone believes you, it becomes almost impossible not to question yourself. Even with a therapist saying over and over “this isn’t your fault,” even with the friends and family who stuck around telling you the same thing, that part of me that was wired to believe I needed the… Continue reading

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July 8, 2025

Walking in Shadows: A Journey from Darkness to Light

The toxic faith I grew up with convinced me that looking inward was dangerous—that if I dug beneath the surface, I’d discover nothing but the rot of an irredeemably sinful heart. But what happens when someone already drowning in that internal darkness looks outward and sees nothing but more of the same? When it finally… Continue reading

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June 30, 2025

When Stars Fall: Finding the Light Within

“Sometimes life feels almost too heavy to bear. I find myself turning off the news or closing social media after yet another story of a bright star crashing into darkness—someone whose light had guided so many of us through our own difficult days. But why do their lights go out? Why do they sometimes choose… Continue reading

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June 27, 2025

I Never Thought I’d Join a Cult – Until I Did

The post emphasizes the dangers of cult-like behaviors in churches, discussing psychological manipulation, enforced conformity, and the loss of personal identity. It highlights personal experiences with religious trauma while drawing parallels to political polarization. Encouraging critical thinking, the author advocates for self-examination and seeking support to understand one’s true identity outside manipulative environments. Continue reading

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