Tag: religious abuse

  • Overcoming Religious Trauma: The Theology of Self-Trust

    Self-distrust doesn’t arrive all at once. It gets installed — quietly, systematically, by systems that need you not to trust yourself in order to keep you close.

  • When Appeasement Becomes a Way of Life

    I didn’t have words for what happened to me for a long time. Laura Anderson’s Religious Power and Control Wheel gave me a map. Here I walk through each category — and share what I lived inside each one.

  • The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Finding Truth Beyond Collective Narratives

    We tell ourselves stories in order to live,” Joan Didion wrote. But what happens when those shared stories—our collective narratives—become barriers to the very connection they promise to create? Growing up with parents whose lives were like apple carts filled to capacity, I learned early how fragile our shared stories can be. One uncomfortable truth…

  • You ARE A Lot Stronger Than You Think You Are

    I struggle with the expectation that I should be stronger when facing people who think I’m sinning for disagreeing with their doctrine. My abuse happened in a mainstream evangelical church—not something people call a cult today. Many people I care about still attend churches with similar beliefs. I often wonder: am I traumatized by the…