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Part 2: How Environment Shapes Us—From Worm Theology to Finding Ourselves
How can I know what parts of me are shaped by my environment? And what parts of me are who I really am? As an adopted child who later joined an evangelical church, I’ve learned that worm theology doesn’t just teach you about God—it teaches you who you’re supposed to be. And unlearning that is… Continue reading
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A Prayer of Complaint, Petition, and Resolution
A prayer born from threshold moments—naming consumption as the shadow we refuse to see. For survivors learning the difference between being fed and being fed upon. Continue reading
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Understanding Spiritual Trauma and Its Impact
When the ground you thought would always hold becomes unstable—that’s spiritual trauma. After a decade of trying to heal in places that retraumatized me, I learned what survivors actually need. It’s not what most churches think. Continue reading
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Connection vs. Consumption: Recognizing When Relationships Extract Rather Than Nourish Part 2: Love vs. Consumption Series
A Note on Process: This piece emerged from a long conversation—with myself, really, though AI served as a reflective partner in the process. I started with raw, stream-of-consciousness writing trying to understand my own patterns around connection and consumption. The AI helped me see the structure in what I was already saying, asked questions that… Continue reading
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When the Tool Becomes a Crutch: AI, Agency, and Doing Your Own Thinking
I’ve discovered something troubling: there’s a line between AI helping me organize my thoughts and AI doing my thinking for me. And that line matters. Continue reading
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LOVE VS. CONSUMPTION: I DIDN’T KNOW THE DIFFERENCE
I used to think being valued meant being loved. I didn’t know someone could see my worth and still devour me whole. Here’s what I learned about the difference between love and consumption. Continue reading
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When Helping Ourselves Becomes Hurting Ourselves: My Journey with Rumination
For years, I thought retelling my abuse story was helping me heal. I had no idea I was retraumatizing myself every single time. Today I discovered the hidden pattern that’s been keeping me stuck—and why even well-intentioned therapy can miss it. Continue reading
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A Liminal Space 